Needy Wife

Was he wrong in not having time for me, his wife? Yes he was. Was he wrong in telling me to sort myself out? Yes he was. But would that have made any difference to the problem at hand? Would knowing that he was wrong solve anything? I had to do something, I could not wait for him to change... and so I changed.
The great thing about changing oneself is that those around you feel exposed in their fixed way of thinking. They feel bad for being the only ones who did not change for a good cause. When I changed the way I dealt with my husband, he changed the way he dealt with me. If he was too busy, I'd be too busy too, as if I had not missed him the whole day... and then suddenly, he was the one feeling left out... and in feeling left out, he'd come to me just like I had come to him a thousand times before. When he saw a change in me from being a needy wife to a mature woman, he fell right where I wanted him to...
It's funny because I wasn't needy before our wedding day. He would be the one calling me, sending me love letters, cute love messages, and flowers. I was over the moon but I remember making an effort not to show it... and then after one year of marriage, I was showing it too much... he obviously grew tired of it. Now that I think of it... how immature of me!

Through prayer and through changing my way of thinking and seeing things, my husband changed. Each passing year, we're more in love... closer, more alike, more attached.


In faith,
Cristiane Cardoso
www.cristianecardoso.com